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May Musings

Today is May 1st, and boy do I feel like May is a loaded month–this year in particular. 

May is Asian Pacific American Heritage Month (APAHM). It is also Jewish American Heritage Month. May 9th is Mother’s Day. And this May is the month I will give birth to my first child.

Not surprisingly, all of the above things are really blending and meshing together into one very complicated, mixed up ball of emotions. 

Stop Telling Me That I Don’t Count

If this blog entry reads as angry, frustrated, or desperate–it’s because it is. I am. I feel as though I have been screaming my entire life and my screams have been silenced or quantified as a direct result of being an adoptee.

People don’t understand what it is like, and I suppose I don’t expect them to because I’ve never come flat out and said some of these things, but I am going to now. I am going to now so there is no question, and in the hopes that anyone who reads this will reflect and can no longer feign ignorance.

What’s In A Name? Part 2

There was also a part of me that felt like giving our daughter a Korean middle name might impose too much “Koreanness” on her. At the time, I was really struggling with the fact that she was going to have nods to Asian features, and I think that the protective side of me wanted to shield her from any adversity that could potentially come from acknowledging her Korean heritage. I also sort of felt like an imposter giving her a Korean middle name. Who was I to give a child a name from a culture I grew up so divorced from and had only recently begun to reconnect with?

What’s In A Name? Part I

We are happy to announce that Baby R’s name is…

Just kidding! Sorry, but you all are going to need to wait until the little one makes her appearance earthside to find out what her name is.

But in all seriousness, I knew that the business of naming your child was probably not something to be taken lightly. However, I didn’t know how many feelings and emotions it would bring up as a transracial adoptee parent.

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About Me

Hi, I’m Shené. I’m a Korean adoptee, former Middle School English teacher, and new Mama-to-be! I began Becoming Boulder when I left my job to move with my husband from Boston to Boulder. When I’m not writing you can find me in the kitchen whipping up new recipies, tackling a new passion project, or getting lost in nature. I love writing about Life’s adventures and challenges from adoption and mental health, to women’s empowerment and motherhood!

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