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The Ebb & Flow

I went from feeling like my childhood was hard because of racism, to feeling like my childhood was hard because of my adoption.

My Labor & Delivery Story

It’s taken me a long time to sit down and write this, and as I do so, I find myself flooded with emotions and moments I have honestly tried to push aside during the past two and a half months.

May Musings

Today is May 1st, and boy do I feel like May is a loaded month–this year in particular. 

May is Asian Pacific American Heritage Month (APAHM). It is also Jewish American Heritage Month. May 9th is Mother’s Day. And this May is the month I will give birth to my first child.

Not surprisingly, all of the above things are really blending and meshing together into one very complicated, mixed up ball of emotions. 

Stop Telling Me That I Don’t Count

If this blog entry reads as angry, frustrated, or desperate–it’s because it is. I am. I feel as though I have been screaming my entire life and my screams have been silenced or quantified as a direct result of being an adoptee.

People don’t understand what it is like, and I suppose I don’t expect them to because I’ve never come flat out and said some of these things, but I am going to now. I am going to now so there is no question, and in the hopes that anyone who reads this will reflect and can no longer feign ignorance.


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About Me

Hi, I’m Shené. I’m a Korean adoptee, former Middle School English teacher, and new Mama-to-be! I began Becoming Boulder when I left my job to move with my husband from Boston to Boulder. When I’m not writing you can find me in the kitchen whipping up new recipies, tackling a new passion project, or getting lost in nature. I love writing about Life’s adventures and challenges from adoption and mental health, to women’s empowerment and motherhood!

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